What gifts are you thankful for today?
"Alyssa got her first tooth today"
"You need to put that in her baby book!"
"Look at this cute picture I took of the baby playing..."
"You need to frame that!"
"She said the funniest thing today..."
"You need to write that down!"
When I was a new mom there was a phrase I came to despise. Can ya guess?
You. Need. To.
Don't get me wrong - I realize friends and family, other moms, and the occasional complete stranger were just trying to be helpful. Honestly, I've probably used the phrase myself.
But, why all the pressure to record everything?
I think it's about regret. We don't want to REGRET not writing it down or framing it or recording it in some way for future generations. In fact, we don't want to REGRET anything! We don't want to regret saying the wrong thing or NOT saying the right thing. We don't want to regret doing the wrong thing or NOT doing the right thing. We don't want to regret the fact that we regret too much!
Is it possible to live regret-free? Of course not. Who has the time, budget, or brain space to grab hold of every chance to do the right thing, make a memory, and always avoid making the wrong choice? Not me. Eventually, I’m going to mess up.
And, I'll regret it.
Last school year my daughter had trouble staying in bed. It had been several nights in a row of tummy aches that seemed to come conveniently at 7:30pm. Finally, we laid down an ultimatum… stay in bed OR ELSE. The “or else” was a punishment we were certain would keep her in her room. It didn’t. In an hour, she was back with a report of a tummy that hurt like a broken leg. We followed through on the punishment and it was a horrible night for everyone. Fast forward two days later to us sitting in the doctor's office, finding out she had strep throat. Guess what was her first symptom? A tummy that hurt like a broken leg. Oh, how I regretted punishing our sweet girl for being sick! My husband and I apologized lovingly and explained that sometimes parents don’t get it right. Really, isn't that all we could do?
What's the benefit of letting regret linger? Doesn't it just want to take us down the road to shame? Let's not go there.
For me, 2013 isn't the year of "NO REGRETS". It's the year of fewer regrets. With God's help, I'll love freely, make mistakes, openly ask for forgiveness, and move on to live another one of my quirky days as best I can.
How about you?
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